cleromancy:

tw for abuse culture

like is it wrong to think discussing how a relationship was dysfunctional/abusive shouldn’t turn into but let’s talk about the abuser and how steph is partly to blame for being abused

because i’m really upset that this turned into a discussion about cass’s experience and…

Well, I’m working on a really long response, but I think the area where I personally see Cass being more disadvantaged is in terms of speech/disability. Stephanie has a tendency to hit directly at that spot sometimes and act like Cass doesn’t have feelings because Cass can’t say them as well. Cass generally has more power in the relationship, but Stephanie does have power in that one area and having a disability myself, I often flinch reading some of the ways that Steph (among many, many others) talk about Cass to her face with regards to her not being able to talk. They often basically act as if she can’t understand anything and doesn’t care about anything even when they should know so much better.

This isn’t to say that Cass’s abusive (yes) treatment of Steph is at all, at ALL okay. It isn’t. And, as I said, Cass usually is the one with more power in the relationship so it often is her being the abusive one, but in this one specific area the power shifts and Stephanie is more abusive to Cass.